What to do when you face a little bit of neg on #SocialMedia

January 8, 2018 in Lifestyle, Mindfulness - 4 Comments - 3 min read

What to do when you face a little bit of neg on #SocialMedia

January 8, 2018 in Lifestyle, Mindfulness - 4 Comments - 3 min read

Social media is a great tool. However like a lot of things, it is not always used for good. Something I unfortunately experienced towards the end of last year. Like a lot of people and like a lot of bloggers I use social media to help promote my blog, connect with people who I have something common with online and stay up to date with world news and friends. pretty Simple.

However, at the end of last year, I found a rather threatening message in my inbox, telling me to be wary of who I spoke to online, once I rejected the message, I too received some nasty words and felt ver alarmed. I didn’t really understand why stranger would go to the effort to contact me to slate another person but I immediately decided I didn’t want any part of it. I mean how would you react? Its alarming, intrusive and unkind to go seek out people associated with another person and try and attempt to destroy their friendships.

And recently I saw a friend get upset when she saw someone mocking the way she was posing for a photo and constructing herself online. A negative outburst by some random person in attempt to ruin what makes someone else happy – I just don’t understand that outburst.

I’m all for people having certain opinions on others, not everyone is going to like everyone, I think we can all agree on on that. Different people can have different experiences with the same person.

So what did I do?

After a few unsuccessful messages back and forth trying to get to the bottom of the issue, I decided enough was enough. life is short and this mishap was not on the schedule. So I’m sharing with you, what I did and what I will always do, to remove the toxic side of life online and recharge myself to stay happy with the good side.

Mute Button/Block Button

Now this is most definitely, the first call of action. Sometimes this is just what you need to online when you don’t want to be contacted or even see whats going on. I really think this can sometimes be the best strategy for both sides. If someone cannot see or attack you, then surely the will eventually get bored.

 

 

PRIVATE TIME

Go private. Hide yourself away on your account for a few days. It can be extremely detoxing and important to allow yourself to feel just that little bit more secure on the internet. They can’t see your content anymore, and that is extremely refreshing and comforting.

 

STAY OFFLINE – GO OUTSIDE

The online world can be very consuming. I should know, its my career and my main hobby. So I understand the feeling of thinking that everything said and done about you or to you online matter. Here’s the deal, not all of it does and trolls certainly do not. Log out, get out and unwind.

Although it may be wintery now, I liked to take a walk round the block where I live, leave my phone and enjoy, the fresh air, the different view & the general feeling of everything unwinding. If your finding things tough online, then please do remove yourself for a few hours or even a few days. It can do wonders and also allow you revalute what you do like about social media and online world, so when you do come back, thats your focus.

I’m sure most of you already know the above, but I just wanted to point these out for anyone who struggled slightly if they’ve been involved in a situation online that confused them or there them. I think its important to spread kindness and happiness. i don’t believe for a second that everyone likes everyone in the blogging industry or online for that matter but I do think everyone should a slight respect for another and If you really don’t like what you see, take it out of your view.

Have a lovely week! x

4 Comments

  • forallthatwander January 8, 2018 at 5:53 pm

    I’m really sorry you experienced the negativity – I myself had to come off completely a few years ago due to a rather negative experience, that’s kinda shaped the way I am. Well done, for taking action and not let it affect you. As you say ‘life is short’

    Fab post 🙂

    Abby x

  • Erin January 8, 2018 at 6:06 pm

    I love this advice so much, it can be so easy to get wrapped up into negativity 🙁

    Erin || MakeErinOver

  • Stephanie January 9, 2018 at 12:27 pm

    This is great advice for anyone that is frequently using social media, especially bloggers! There;s definitely no space for negativity in anyone’s life and for some people to be quite mean towards another on the internet is so shallow. Sorry you experienced this and I’m glad you dealt with it well! 🙂

    Stephanie xo
    http://www.stephanievivienne.com

  • Gayle Smith April 7, 2018 at 6:54 pm

    Hey Mollie. Wise words from an intelligent sensitive woman. Remember I’m here for you as and when required.

    Yours Aye
    Galye XXX

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